2.4 million couples row twice a week about who should tidy up
Two thirds of women refuse to have sex when distracted by clothes that need folding
18% of men still believe it’s their partner’s job to clean the house
From debates over whose turn it is to wash up to niggles over the laundry, it’s commonplace for couples to bicker every now and then.
But according to the latest survey, British couple have 104 arguments a year about the mess in their homes – and it’s causing some serious rifts.
A staggering 2.4 million couples row twice a week about who should tidy up with arguments becoming so heated it affects their sex lives – and even causes some to break up.
Household chores debate: Couple have hundreds of argument over household duties and 18 per cent of men still think it’s a woman’s job to clean
In fact, the study found that two thirds of women (67 per cent) have refused to have sex when distracted by clothes that need to be folded, hung up or put away.
The research found one in five couples, 18 per cent, row at least once a week about which one is causing the mess.
Women’s biggest complaint was revealed to be their man leaving piles of clothes on the floor, with 36 per cent irritated by this.
Unfortunately for them, 18 per cent of men still believe it is their partner’s job to clean the house, with just five per cent taking responsibility themselves.
This slack attitude just increases domestic friction, the study found.
Knock-on effect: One in five couples, row at least once a week about which one is causing the mess and it’s even affecting their sex lives
As a result one in six women – 16 per cent – resort to shouting at their boyfriend or husband to get him to tidy up.
And a cheeky 10 per cent bribe their man with the promise of an ‘early night’ if they keep the house tidy.
But a third (33 per cent) concede it is less of a hassle to tidy up themselves than continually nag.
Partners are most likely to row about the amount of cosmetics and clothing their other half owns, and where they leave it.
A fifth of men (18 per cent) complain their girlfriend has too many beauty products, and 17 per cent say they own too many shoes.
A third (31 per cent) believe their partner simply has ‘too much stuff’.
Furthermore, 13 per cent of women say they would break up with a man if he refused to change his messy habits.
Others find cunning ways of dealing with clutter, sneakily throwing it out or hiding it, the study found.
A third of Brits (29 per cent) have intentionally thrown out items belonging to their partner in a bid to free up space, and then claimed it was a ‘mistake’.
And half (47 per cent) remove clutter from communal areas and hide it in their bedroom when expecting guests, because ‘no one will go in there’.
Wishful thinking: One in six women resort to shouting at their boyfriend or husband to get him to tidy up
One in seven women, 15 per cent, say the most stressful thing about moving in with a partner is having to share wardrobe space.
Unlike women, just a quarter of men (23 per cent) say they have turned down a night of passion because their partner’s bedroom was too messy.
Graphic designer Rachel Hughes, 34, from Portsmouth, Hants, said: ‘I argue with my boyfriend every week about the state he leaves our house in.
‘He seems to think it is acceptable to leave his dirty clothes in a pile at the end of the bed, but then moans about my shoes ‘littering’ the wardrobe.
‘I do nag him to try and get him to pull his weight but I eventually end up cleaning by myself anyway. It is easier than continually nagging him.’
A spokesman for Ikea, who carried out the survey, said: ‘People have very different ideas about what “tidy” means, but it is still remarkable how many couples argue several times a week about mess and clutter in their homes.
‘Our findings show stereotypes continue to ring true, with men annoying their partner by leaving piles of clothes in the bedroom, while women have too many shoes and cosmetics.
‘It is sad some argue so much it affects their love lives or may even lead to them splitting up, when simple storage solutions could help them live happily.’
TV psychotherapist Stelios Kiosses said: ‘The results highlight that some men aren’t pulling their weight when it comes to keeping a tidy home.
‘For women, a house left in a mess symbolises that her partner doesn’t care about how she feels.
‘Women tend to express this by increasing the amount they complain, but men misinterpret this and tend to take it as a remark meant to make them feel incompetent.
‘Mess then becomes a barrier between the couple, creating feelings of resentment.
‘Few couples realise the importance of dealing with it until it is way out of control.
‘Piles of stuff in every room may affect the couples ability to think clearly, relax, and enjoy their living space so it’s important to have storage space for every item to prevent more pile-ups.’
SOURCE: Daily Mail